Thursday, January 2, 2014

THOUGHTS ON THURSDAY

I am now 82!!  Of course the 'right' thing in my life today is the fact I've been granted a further 12 years above my allotted three score years and ten so what's not to be happy about?  I'm never sure what I've done to deserve longevity; maybe it's all in the genes.


It is going to be a quiet day as my daughter is still recovering from her knee op and #1 granddaughter is busy and #2 granddaughter has been down with a tummy bug. #3 granddaughter lives in Alaska and my grandson will be working.  I don't mind as I know they will be thinking of me and I of them of course.

My birthday for the past 12 years has been tinged with some sadness as it was on my 70th birthday my son took it into his head to cease all communication with me and my family.  Since then he has had nothing to do with me, his step-father (Phil), his own dad nor his sister or any of her family.  Nobody seems to really know what caused this and we have been unable to find out.  The old adage 'out of sight, out of mimd' doesn't ring true in this case as I still think of him and, although I doubt it will ever happen, I hope that one day we will all get together.  After all, he is my son; he is my daughter's brother and I think she deserves better from him.  I have been fortunate that his wife has kept me up-to-date about their family via email with the occasional photograph.

I no longer let this cause hurt as 12 years is a long time and I have my fantastic daughter and her family who have always been there for me and for this I am eternally grateful to them.  I may not see them as often as I'd like but they are all busy people and I know should I need them at any time they would respond. I can ask for nothing more than that from anyone.  That is a daily 'right' in my life.  What a wonderful family I have.







14 comments:

  1. ohhhh is it your birthday? HaPpY BiRtHdAy!!! You do have a wonderful family, and friends who love you!! And a wonderfully positive outlook on life, may there be many more blessings going your way xo Michelle

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  2. Michelle, thank you so much for your beautiful comments. I am really am so fortunate. It's a simple life but a good one. xx

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  3. Happy, happy birthday. I am very sorry that your son cut off his nose to spite his face, and hope he does learn the error of his ways.
    Hugs.

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    1. Thank you so much EC. Yes you are right....he did didn't he?
      We all have little things that try us from time to time but we don't give up the ship. x

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  4. Happy, Happy Birthday!!
    I know you have dietary restrictions, but have a slice of cake, just for today. I hope you have many more birthdays.

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    1. Thanks so much for your birthday wishes. Phil did come home with a chocolate mud cake so yes, we had coffee and cake this afternoon. Now I don't need any tea!

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  5. Drum roll please....ta da....HAPPY BIRTHDAY. Imagine balloons and noisemakers and cake. I hold out hope for you that your son will come to his senses. If he doesn't...he will be a sad sad man one of these days.

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    1. Thanks Delores and cake was had by both of us but no balloons or noise (except Precious who chats away most of the day). Who knows what's in store in the future. One day...perhaps.

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  6. Oh happy, happy birthday Mimsie - congratulations on making it to the wonderful age of 82! I'm so sorry to hear of your son's loss - why on earth he wouldn't want to spend time with someone so lovely is beyond me xx

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    1. Thanks PPMJ for your wishes. I guess everyone has their reason for making certain decisions and perhaps one day we may find what that reason is/was. As said I am so lucky to have my daughter and her family. Even had a call from granddaughter in Alaska which was great. xx

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  7. Hari OM
    I pick up on Delores' point - I think he is already a very sad person, to have even thought of doing this. I have friends who are faced with similar (in those cases it is the brother to them). Who knows what goes on in such personalities. All we can do is continue to stand in a position of Love as you so clearly do, dear Mimsie.

    That all said.. H A P P Y B I R T H D A Y!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...(82X) Every year is a blessing - indeed waking up each morning is a blessing in my book. Hearty congratulations and felicitations, as the saying has it. Sending big curvy hugs, YAM xxx

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    1. Thanks YAM. I appreciate your concern but most of all your wonderful birthday wishes. There are many dysfunctional families around the world and ours is no exception. Who knows why? It's been a quiet but enjoyable day and thanks for those hugs. xxx

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  8. Thank you very much Rae. xxxx

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