tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2704657209559170713.post7816385712897976623..comments2024-03-08T21:26:51.950+08:00Comments on A geriatric grandmother: TELLING IT ON TUESDAY (Part 21) 1965-1966Mimsiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00249766510078357225noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2704657209559170713.post-58056296084361031462014-06-07T16:57:24.443+08:002014-06-07T16:57:24.443+08:00You are so right. All of these happenings pale in...You are so right. All of these happenings pale into insignificance compared with modern day television. lol<br />It wasn't really sordid, but just very unfortunate but I did have two lovely children so something good came out if it except Steven is a little too much like his dad, more's the pity.Mimsiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00249766510078357225noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2704657209559170713.post-60827486638305162762014-06-07T16:55:35.633+08:002014-06-07T16:55:35.633+08:00I think when the 'last straw' arrived then...I think when the 'last straw' arrived then it was the time to get out in a hurry. Didn't even think about it....just did it, or else.<br />We started well but when I think back there was little we had in common so marriage should have some basis to begin with and ours didn't.Mimsiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00249766510078357225noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2704657209559170713.post-66235853765832754422014-06-07T16:53:46.111+08:002014-06-07T16:53:46.111+08:00No, I wasn't too hard on myself in my own mind...No, I wasn't too hard on myself in my own mind. I wasn't sufficient subservient so perhaps that was my main fault.<br />When I think of all the chances of Phil and I meeting I feel fate certainly took a hand somewhere along the line. Am I a fatalist? Maybe I am after all. Mimsiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00249766510078357225noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2704657209559170713.post-38761020288945248822014-06-07T16:52:09.914+08:002014-06-07T16:52:09.914+08:00I was told by my lawyer (who later went on to be a...I was told by my lawyer (who later went on to be a Supreme Court judge) that adults are more severely affected by marriage breakups than are the children. I don't believe that is entirely true as Karen was better off but not sure Steven was. I actually felt very little, probably relief more than anything that it was over.<br />I did miss the little car but Phil and I shared his Ford Escort without any argument so that was fine.Mimsiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00249766510078357225noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2704657209559170713.post-37283273227235738742014-06-07T16:49:55.839+08:002014-06-07T16:49:55.839+08:00Hopefully I managed to keep to the truth and no, I...Hopefully I managed to keep to the truth and no, I was in no way perfect so must accept some of the blame. I perhaps just didn't kowtow enough to be acceptable to him.Mimsiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00249766510078357225noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2704657209559170713.post-69208140536749807662014-06-04T18:50:56.999+08:002014-06-04T18:50:56.999+08:00There's never any point in apportioning blame ...There's never any point in apportioning blame as to who broke up a marriage. There is always fault on both sides, but in your case I'd say there was definitely more fault in Aubrey than in you. You did the right thing by leaving as far as I'm concerned and the timing of the leaving doesn't matter one bit. In fact I'd say Aub goaded you by picking on some trivial thing that night you were ironing.<br />None of this is even half as sordid as what we see on TV these days. Riverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14794655013673748992noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2704657209559170713.post-54349996725653045252014-06-04T04:47:32.614+08:002014-06-04T04:47:32.614+08:00EC and Yam have penned many of my thoughts eloquen...EC and Yam have penned many of my thoughts eloquently but further, I am most grateful that your mum was there Mimsie otherwise you may have stayed in an unhappy and unequal marriage that was going nowhere.<br />So many women of the times did stay in atrocious marriages because it was what was the done thing, and many had absolutely nowhere to go!<br />Well done Mimsie, you deserved your eventual happiness. I can only but imagine the courage it took you, I was in a toxic marriage for 8 years in modern times before I had what it took to leave.<br />You have my respect and admiration dear girl.Rose ~ from Ozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01908281749611280188noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2704657209559170713.post-9680607475367477362014-06-04T04:06:58.286+08:002014-06-04T04:06:58.286+08:00Oh Mimsie. You have bent over backwards being as ...Oh Mimsie. You have bent over backwards being as fair as possible to Aub in the whole sad and sorry saga. And I agree with Delores, you may have been too hard on yourself. And still are.<br />And I love that out of the pain, grief and confusion you found Phil. Or more accurately that you found each other (thanks Aub).Elephant's Childhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06650565833097914052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2704657209559170713.post-59270988828902885312014-06-03T21:27:20.366+08:002014-06-03T21:27:20.366+08:00Hari OM
Mimsie, the strength it took to realise yo...Hari OM<br />Mimsie, the strength it took to realise your own 'volcano' status glows through here. Far too many women - particularly of this era - 'kept things together' in the mistaken idea that it was better for the children... which it rarely is. <br /><br />I read every word, my dear; for it takes the same courage to revisit it and share it like this. I know because I am doing something similar albeit in very different context. One thing I know for sure; no matter how we tell it, anyone who was present will have a differing version. This is what makes experience so personal. There can be no wrong version, just variation. What is important is that it is told, for posterity and catharsis. <br /><br />What a shame you couldn't keep the 'trusty steed' though!! YAM xxYamini MacLeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18383916589808462620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2704657209559170713.post-60508579460762995522014-06-03T19:46:05.755+08:002014-06-03T19:46:05.755+08:00It sounds to me like you've given a very fair ...It sounds to me like you've given a very fair account of things as they happened.... maybe a little harder on yourself than you should be.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com